I submit that most everyone has held a grudge for someone, or something in course of your life journey.

When you hold a grudge, you want someone else’s sorrow to reflect your level of hurt, and the two will rarely meet.  It is a waste when one spends their life nursing animosity, and registering wrongs.

Grudges are for those who insist that they are owed something. Forgiveness, however, is for those who are substantial enough to move on.

I’ve learned that it can be healing and empowering to let these grudges go, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace.

Remember, forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting. Forgiving means accepting that it happened.

I could make the connection between unresolved anger, grief, and grudges leading to revenge-and all that includes. I think for now, this is enough.

Chaplain Royal

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